Asking Questions

Do you realize you ask yourself questions all day long? Ever hear yourself say things like, "What was I thinking when I ..." "You know you can't do something like that, don't you?" "What makes you think you are good enough to ask her out?"

You know what I mean--the kind of questions that put you down, keep you in place, prevent you from taking risks. Those questions pour out non-stop from the Little Voice inside your head. In fact you converse with that voice all day long.

Think you don't have a LIttle Voice? It has become habit. You do not even realize it is happening. You are living on automatic.

Well, when you choose to live consciously and get unstuck http://www.blogger.com/img/gl.link.gif from the doldrum life you lead then you will find yourself composing questions consciously, questions that move your life forward like,"How can I be even more compassionate in my life?" "How can I be even more creative in my work?" You will ask questions that let you know you already do the thing well and you can be even better when you learn how or more about doing it or being that way.

For that reason I say that the quality of the questions you ask yourself determine the quality of the life you lead.

You Gotta Ask questions

Most people go through life on automatic. They hear about situations that happen to others and figure they are somehow insulated from the bad experiences of life.

The thing is, everyone goes through some kind of crisis at some point--the death of a loved one, retirement (by choice or not by choice), health issues, etc. The general public lives life as though the inevitable will never come to pass and therefore not preparing for such events keeps them from having to act in a crisis.

In talking with people I have found that people do know they will face difficult situations but they have no clue how to prepare themselves in advance. They do not know how to find solutions and make plans.

Learning how to ask questions may save your life or the life of someone you love. At the very least it may make a painful situation bearable. Become the master asker for your own life today.

Accurate Thinking

The term Accurate Thinking is popping up in more and more places these days. What is Accurate Thinking? Knowing the world just is and events simply are what happens is Accurate Thinking. We assign meaning to events creating Stinking Thinking. Those kinds of thoughts cause us to feel hurt, sad, angry etc. Those thoughts lead to judgments about how something is and how it should be according to us.
When something in your life goes differently from how you expected you have two choices. You can interpret the result as being good or bad OR you can simply recognize the event went the way the event went.
self esteem entails knowing you control how your world flows or ripples. You alone place obstacles and you alone burst through obstacles once you see how you created them in the first place with the stories spoken in your mind. Life comes down to the choices we make in each instance.
How do you find possible choices? Ask questions. You Gotta Ask Questions. The quality of your life depends on the quality of the questions you ask yourself. Start with asking what you were thinking when you had certain feelings or emotions. Notice the thoughts that were present for you during specific emotional experiences and you will uncover hidden information about how to alter your reality around those types of situations. What you once chose to learn can be replaced by new actions that allow you to feel differently--happier and healthier. Rememebr your self-image determines your level of self esteem dictating limits you impose upon yourself. Want to change your self esteem? Live consciously. Learn how by reading Getting Unstuck.

What Is Love Anyway?

All of us go through relationships with people who, we are sure, are "the one." What attracts people to each other is underlying energy signals of which we are unaware. What we don’t know we don’t know is what gets us into the state of being stuck. Have you ever noticed that some people get divorced then turn around and marry the first spouse all over again--only the second spouse has a different name and face?
People attract who they are. Many of us are looking for ourselves, for our identity. As our self-image changes and we grow in maturity we will attract different people who are at the same point at each corresponding level.

The key is to love oneself. Since we are going to attract the person we are then it makes sense to be certain we are who we want to be. Most important, we need to be sure we love ourselves. It is not possible to love another without true self-love.
We need guidance to ask the questions that guide us to uncovering our True Self. Self-image runs lives. Self-images are usually inaccurate. Self-discovery is the path to freedom and really honest unconditional love.
If there are conditions in the relationship then no matter how that person acts or fails to act is accepted. One single behavior, not necessarily liked or condoned, is accepted rather than judged when love is present. In a relationship where a behavior or action shuts down the love feelings--well, there was no unconditional love in the first place. Love is always unconditional. Anything else is just emotions, feelings, not love at all. Armed with that knowledge we will be spared the pain of broken romances.

Creating Your World

Creating happiness does not involve a "how-to" system as much as it involves a "wake up and live" a conscious life style. Everything that exists in the world starts as thought. Every invention was first an idea in someone's imagination. Every action you take or fail to take was first something you thought about. Thought creates the world. Thought creates each person's individual world. What you think about events determines how you responds to events.
Imagine how differently you would experience each day with the knowledgeyou have control over how you respond to life events. What happens happens. Interestingly, in Japan there is one word that means both crisis and opportunity. The same event is a disaster to one person and an opportunity to another. How you choose to act or not act is up to you. Period.. LIfe was never meant to be difficult. People, with their thoughts, make it hard or easy. How doe you see life? Do you know that struggle is optional?
Ask ourself why you stay stuck in mediocrity or even worse?